The Simple Shift to Seeing Your True Self

One small change in focus can turn self-criticism into self-acceptance.

Hi there,

Ever find yourself fixated on a flaw. Watching it grow bigger the longer you focus on it?

Like a spotlight that makes every little crack look like a canyon, it’s easy to let these imperfections overwhelm us.

We all have flaws, quirks, and insecurities that seem to come alive when we zoom in on them.

And the more we scrutinize, the larger they appear.

But here’s the thing: when we take that spotlight away, these so-called flaws shrink.

They’re still there, but they’re no longer these giants in our minds.

This week, I want to challenge how we look at our flaws.

Simple Shift to Seeing Your True Self

What happens if we simply accept our flaws instead of magnifying them? When we stop hyper-focusing on every imperfection, those flaws lose their power. Instead of casting shadows over who we are, they become small parts of a much bigger picture. A picture of growth, self-acceptance, and authenticity.

How to make this simple shift to seeing your true self?

Here are three ways to start looking at your flaws through a kinder lens and turn self-criticism into self-acceptance.

1. Recognize the Effect: Understand that our minds exaggerate. A flaw might feel massive, but it’s often barely noticed by others.

   
   

2. Shift the Focus: Instead of zoning in on flaws, focus on your strengths and wins. Balance your self-view by reminding yourself of what you bring to the table.

   
   

3. Practice Acceptance: Some flaws aren’t meant to be fixed; they’re just parts of who we are. Acceptance doesn’t mean settling; it means seeing yourself fully.

Let’s embrace being a work in progress, flaws and all. This lets you live with more freedom and self-compassion.

So, next time you feel the urge to put a spotlight on a flaw, ask yourself if it’s really as big as it seems.

Chances are, when you turn that spotlight off, you’ll find that it’s not such a big deal after all!

Cheers,

Loes

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Loes (short for Marloes) is a Visual Strategist and Founder of Linesbyloes Consultancy. With over 20 years of experience in design and consultancy, she guides organizations to lead, innovate, and navigate change through the power of visual thinking. 

Every week she shares her ideas on growth mindset, happiness and leadership in a visual newsletter: #letterbyloes

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